Join the Party and Get Happy!

This week, I wanted to just let you know that you are awesome…right where you are.  You probably don’t own and recognize your accomplishments, do you?  You’re probably like me and you’re constantly working on the next thing, stressed about where you are and where you want to be, or where you think you should be.  So today, I thought I would remind you that you are pretty amazing and you should take a moment to acknowledge that. And when I say acknowledge your accomplishments, I’m not just talking about material or physical things; being brave enough to pursue your dreams or quit your job to figure out what you really want to do with your life is an accomplishment too!

I work a lot with kids and one thing I love about them is they own their accomplishments.  They learn a new skill or step and proclaim, “I did it!” with enthusiasm.  As adults, many of us have lost that sense of satisfaction and contentment when we accomplish something because we are quickly on to the next venture and comparing ourselves to others.  We rush our journey and the small milestones along the way.  We feel we must get where we want to go NOW. But why?  I think it’s because we live in a society that thrives on comparing ourselves to others–we compare our bodies, our careers, our homes, our lives! We feel pressure to be a certain way and fit in to what we believe to be the norm.

I don’t know about you, but I often suffer from what I call the “should be” syndrome.  The tape that plays in my head goes like this: At this age, I should be more successful.  I work in the fitness industry, so I should beable to maintain a perfect body. I should be further along with my non-profit by now.  I should be further along in my career. 

But then I remind myself, who said?  Who decides what should and should not be??  My journey doesn’t have to look like my colleagues’ or competitors’  and someone else’s definition of success might be very different than mine.  When I compare myself to others–and I often do and have to fight it!– I see how much further I have to go and I negate what I’ve just accomplished. I know many of my clients and friends share this sentiment.  But what would happen if we accepted our own journey for what it is, without comparing it to someone else’s?  What if we accepted our accomplishments–physical, mental, emotional, or material–as being enough without the “should be” syndrome attached to the achievement?

I’m not saying we shouldn’t work hard and strive for greatness. I’m simply wondering if we stopped comparing our path to someone else’s, would we enjoy the journey more?!  And all that time worrying about how you compare to Joe Schmo could be focused on something productive that pertains to your story.  So who will join me in my mission to stop comparing and start enjoying the journey?  Let’s own our accomplishments! I dare you to!

Can’t wait to bust a move with you this week!  And remember that you are AWESOME!