Join the Party and Get Happy!

Happy March!  Spring is right around the corner…I can feel it!  Or maybe it’s just wishful thinking, but either way it is a new month, a fresh start, and a clean slate.  If you’ve taken class with me, you know I LOVE fresh starts. I talk about how you can start your day over at any moment all the time.  In fact, every moment is a fresh start.

But lately, I haven’t been taking my own advice.  I’ve found it harder to bounce back from setbacks, unwanted surprises, and the busyness of life. I’ve found it challenging to always find the hope in a new day. But after some reflection,  I’m pretty sure I know why.  And this month I’m on a mission to stop it and I dare you to join me.   I’m on a quest to STOP COMPLAINING!

The last few months I’ve fallen into the life is hard and if only trap.  You know what I’m talking about. The “if only I had more time,” “if only I didn’t have to work so much,” “if only I made more money,” “if only I had a boyfriend/husband!”  I’m always preaching NOT to do this, and yet I’m spiraling down this drain of negativity! Do you ever have this problem?  AND, I’ve been complaining WAY too much, even about little things like the weather (It has been a tough winter though, right?!?)  But how does complaining about something serve me?  It doesn’t!

What we give attention to grows.  So if we constantly focus on what’s wrong, we are only going to get more of it.  But if we focus on what’s right in our lives, what makes us happy, and what we are grateful for, we tend to receive more of that positive abundance.   And by focusing more on what makes us happy and content, we are more apt to take ACTION to get there.  And action is key!

So this month I’m challenging myself to not publicly complain about ANYTHING–not the weather, not my personal problems, not work issues…NOTHING.  Now I’m not saying if there is a life event or situation that I need help with I won’t lean on friends and family for support.  But it’s different asking for help and complaining about life.

It’s not going to be easy and I’m sure I will slip up,  but it’s important challenge for me to take and I hope you will hop on the bandwagon with me.  Let’s see what happens when we stop complaining and start living!  Let’s take action and make March an awesome month!

So, if you are like me, you are already feeling the madness of this time of year setting in with upcoming holidays, parties, get-togethers, shopping, travel, and FOOD….everywhere.   Although merriment and excitement hover in the air, exhaustion, anxiety, and stress lurk around the corner too.  I often find myself slipping down the treacherous road of over-indulgence when it comes to the delicious treats and over-flowing spirits that abound this time of year.  Sound familiar? And with all the “things to do” and “places to be” I often lack motivation, personally and professionally, to stay true to my purpose and goals.   I can easily get swept up in the madness and lose sight of what this time of year is really about.

 So what am I to do? Well, this year I’m making a vow to savor these next six weeks.  And I don’t mean the food!  I don’t want to go into 2014 hung over and tired.  Even though my schedule is insane, and I’m sure yours is too, I’m choosing to remind myself that we are NOT guaranteed tomorrow, so to complain about the craziness of this time of year is wasted energy.  I’m choosing to slow down a bit and really savor what is important to me in life–friends, family, love, giving and gratitude.  And what a cool thing that I get more opportunities to be with friends, colleagues and family because of the added parties and events! I’m choosing to remember that food and spirits won’t bring me the type of fulfillment that being truly present and engaged with the ones I love will.  I am choosing to remember that, for me, this time of year is about gratitude, love, giving, and faith–NOT eggnog, gingerbread, and wine (though I’m not saying those aren’t added bonuses!) I’m choosing to express to people how much I love and value them with my words and actions, rather than stress myself out over finding the perfect gift.  My hope is that these choices will propel me into the new year with energy and a renewed commitment to what’s important in my life rather than the dreaded, “Ok, now I got get back on the bandwagon” mantra.

Want to join me in this quest?  What are your thoughts on this time of year?  We are committed to make these next six weeks AWESOME at DMF so join the party and come savor and celebrate life with us!