Join the Party and Get Happy!

So, if you are like me, you are already feeling the madness of this time of year setting in with upcoming holidays, parties, get-togethers, shopping, travel, and FOOD….everywhere.   Although merriment and excitement hover in the air, exhaustion, anxiety, and stress lurk around the corner too.  I often find myself slipping down the treacherous road of over-indulgence when it comes to the delicious treats and over-flowing spirits that abound this time of year.  Sound familiar? And with all the “things to do” and “places to be” I often lack motivation, personally and professionally, to stay true to my purpose and goals.   I can easily get swept up in the madness and lose sight of what this time of year is really about.

 So what am I to do? Well, this year I’m making a vow to savor these next six weeks.  And I don’t mean the food!  I don’t want to go into 2014 hung over and tired.  Even though my schedule is insane, and I’m sure yours is too, I’m choosing to remind myself that we are NOT guaranteed tomorrow, so to complain about the craziness of this time of year is wasted energy.  I’m choosing to slow down a bit and really savor what is important to me in life–friends, family, love, giving and gratitude.  And what a cool thing that I get more opportunities to be with friends, colleagues and family because of the added parties and events! I’m choosing to remember that food and spirits won’t bring me the type of fulfillment that being truly present and engaged with the ones I love will.  I am choosing to remember that, for me, this time of year is about gratitude, love, giving, and faith–NOT eggnog, gingerbread, and wine (though I’m not saying those aren’t added bonuses!) I’m choosing to express to people how much I love and value them with my words and actions, rather than stress myself out over finding the perfect gift.  My hope is that these choices will propel me into the new year with energy and a renewed commitment to what’s important in my life rather than the dreaded, “Ok, now I got get back on the bandwagon” mantra.

Want to join me in this quest?  What are your thoughts on this time of year?  We are committed to make these next six weeks AWESOME at DMF so join the party and come savor and celebrate life with us!

I had one of those days today. You know, those days when getting out of bed seems like the hardest thing in the world to do; those days when all you want to do is sleep and pretend you DON’T have a mile long to do list;  those days when no matter how hard you try, you just can’t motivate yourself in any way, shape, or form.

Why am I telling you this?  Because we ALL have these “funk” days as I call them, and rather than fight it, I’m surrendering to the funk and sharing with you some of my favorite quotes and tips for getting out of it!   Obviously, busting a move is my favorite way to break out of a funk, but sometimes it takes a bit more than dancing!  Take what you want from below, leave what you don’t, and have a GREAT day!

1.)    Acknowledge the funk.  Don’t try to mask it by distraction or destructive behavior like binging (always my go to), being unkind, lashing out at coworkers etc. Also, accept that it is OK to not feel 100% all of the time.   If you’re like me, when you feel unmotivated and unproductive it irks the sh#$%t out of you and you feel lazy.  But if we can acknowledge that we are only human and we might not always have a stellar day, we are much more likely to “deal” with it appropriately:)

2.)    Don’t be afraid to share your feelings with someone you trust. George Eliot once said, “What are we here for if not to make life less difficult for each other.”  Yes!  I told a dear friend how I was feeling today and  just receiving a hug from her and having her tell me it was “OK” seemed to lighten me up.  I hope DMF can be a place you feel safe enough to acknowledge that maybe you didn’t have such a good day.  Once you acknowledge it, we can help make it better!

3.)    Turn on some great music and MOVE.  Sometimes an awesome song is the only thing that gets me out of bed!  And PLEASE don’t turn on something that is going dig you deeper into a hole, like some sad Adele song or some depressing ballad.  Pick something that has the mood that you want to be in.  I have a whole playlist of “pick me up and lift me up songs!” Getting your body moving and those endorphins pumping is a sure fire way to lift you up.

4.)    Read something that inspires you.  I have a lists of authors and leaders that I pull excerpts from that I know will help me see things differently or spark a light inside of me when I’m feeling down.  Which leads me to my favorite quotes for when I’m  in a funk:

“Nothing is permanent in this wicked world, not even our troubles.” -Charlie Chaplin.  So true and something I come back to often in life AND in my teaching.   Emotions are temporary (like the burn we feel when working out!) and we must remember that feeling and dealing with them only makes us stronger (yes, I just quoted Kelly Clarkson).

“The only way out is through.” -Robert Frost.  This goes back to acknowledging how you really feel.  Feel it, cry it out if necessary, and don’t deny it.  Once you feel it, you can move forward!  If we suppress those negative feelings and mask them by turning to food, alcohol, and other destructive behaviors, they inevitably come bubbling back up to the surface, often with a vengeance.  Today, I came home had a good cry, took a nap, talked to Winnie (my fur therapist) and decided to just sit with the feelings even though it was uncomfortable.  Just sitting with them helped me figure out why I was feeling that way in the first place.

“Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.” – Mother Teresa.  You may ask, “How does this quote get me out of my funk?”  Well, it’s been proven that when we do positive things for others and put our focus on their needs, we inevitably feel better.  When I started teaching today and focused on what can I give to my clients that will make their day better, lift them up, and provide motivation for their of their week, I immediately felt better.  So do something kind for a friend, coworker or stranger and spread a little love.  You might be surprised how good it feels.

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.” –Melody Beattie.  This is one of my all-time FAVORITE quotes. I practice gratitude every day but when I’m in a funk, I go on gratitude overload! This gratitude overload forces me to acknowledge all the GOOD things in my life rather than just focus on the negative state I’m in at the moment.

I leave you with my favorite Eleanor Roosevelt quote, “With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.” Remember, tomorrow is a new day, fresh start and a clean slate.  DMF is always here for you and we are a GREAT way to get out of a funk:)

“You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.” –Unknown

This is one of my favorite quotes.  If you’ve been to a DMF class recently, you may have heard me say it.  We all build walls.  Sometimes the wall comes in the form of self-doubt (I’m a HUGE culprit of this)—Am I good enough? Am I strong enough? Can I be a leader? Can I start a business? Can I be successful? Can I REALLY change the world?!?  

A close cousin to the self-doubt wall is the fear wall—fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of standing out.  The fear wall prevents us from the joy that comes with trying new things, pursuing our goals, and ultimately being our true selves.

Another wall is worry (yes, I’ve got this one down pat too!) We worry about anything and everything, rather than being the BEST we possibly can be, taking action toward our goals, and TRUSTING that being great will lead us toward success.

What do all these walls have in common?  Two things:  One, they ALL create limitations, hindering us from taking ACTION toward what we want and discovering our ultimate potential.   Two, they are ALL in our head!!  Yes, the walls are in our head because they are just THOUGHTS! Our thoughts do NOT have to be our reality.  Our experiences may have helped shape these thoughts, but when it comes down to it, we do NOT have to believe them, listen to them, or be a slave to them unless we CHOOSE to.   I know this is easier said than done…I struggle every day and it definitely takes practice.   BUT, just recognizing that our thoughts aren’t necessarily truth, we begin to have the power to choose what to believe and acknowledge.

So what are your walls?  DMF wants to help you tear them down and punch your limitations in the face.   Come move your body this week, sweat it out, and get HAPPY with us.  Remember, happiness is a choice.  Choose happiness today and share the DMF love with everyone around you.