A Revelation from Vacation!
“Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action.” –Peter Drucker
So as many of you know, I just returned from an amazing solo trip to St. John. Yes, I went by myself. No, I’m not crazy (most of the time!) My solo vacation surprised many people and I had to explain to almost everyone I met why I was there alone. I wanted to clear my head, figure out my next steps, and essentially just get away from everything–stress, work, anxiety–and just let my body and mind be quiet.
Well, as much as I LOVED my vacation, it really struck me how hard being quiet and being alone with yourself and your thoughts can be and I think this is what truly scares people (probably unconsciously). Though I didn’t have TV, I did have internet and I found myself checking Facebook, emails, and other sites that I really didn’t need to be bothering with. Essentially, I was procrastinating from just sitting and “being” and dealing with what I needed to deal with. But how many of us really spend the time just being quiet and thinking? What would happen if we put down the remote, the computer, the food, the book, and just sat and thought AND listened to our thoughts? What would happen if we didn’t stuff every minute of our spare time with activities, events, and people? What would you think about if you were truly alone?
I think many of us mask our authentic thoughts, desires, and intuition with the “busyness” of life, societal expectations, and the overwhelming amount of distractions we face daily. We ignore the big questions like: What is my purpose? Am I a truly happy in my career, relationships, and life? Am I living a life that I’m proud of? Am I being a loving, non-judgmental person? Am a giving my all to my partner? Am I being a good friend? It is often easier to just “go with the flow” than to really examine and take responsibility for our lives. Trust me I know! I realized on my vacation that I wasn’t fully taking responsibility for my own happiness and well-being, but rather just “pushing forward” in the direction I felt I had to go. I was often letting outside influences–media, clients, society–guide how I was growing my business rather than taking time with my thoughts and examining whether I was truly happy with where I was going.
I’m not going to lie, the tough questions can be uncomfortable, especially when the answers to these questions are “no.” When the answer is “no,” the bigger question of “why” emerges and then the super overwhelming task of creating a new path. Digging deep into the “whys” of life takes time and as crazy, busy New Yorkers living in a fast paced environment of getting ahead, making money and just surviving, it can be easier to just ignore them and keep pressing forward.
But why should we just press forward? We are better than that and we deserve better than that. So you might ask, “Lindi, what did you figure out?!?” Well, I’m still working on it, but a couple of things have definitely emerged and I would like to ask for your help with a few of them. First, while the new, improved vision for DMF is being discovered, I will be offering a few less adult classes per week in the hopes of creating a truly special experience each and every time. You’ll get better music, better motivation and a better overall workout! We want DMF to be your go-to workout on Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Saturdays and we promise to get you super sweaty, motivated and HAPPY!
Second, DMF YOUTH is in the works! My passion for teaching, as some of you know, extends to children and teens and my hope is that DMF YOUTH will be an integral part of after-school and educational programs across the city. DMF YOUTH is a dance-based fitness program that blends a positive and motivational workout with an interactive and fun life skill development curriculum. Want to know more and how you can help? Email me! firstname.lastname@example.org.
See you Tuesday at 6pm, Wednesday at 7pm, and Saturday at 2:30!